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Healing Insights and Life Lessons

IT’s TIME – time to heal with insights from the past.

Healing Insights come when they come. They come from a space of awareness and apparent random thoughts. You get a chance to heal energetically.
Healing Insights and Life Lessons from Woman Working in the 80’s is about releasing the toxic mess that came from hidden workplace agendas.

Healing Insights from a harsher world where
strong women were seen as a threat
when established systems players played women for fools.
and then we rose above this mad mindset.

Healing Insights

come when we need them. We must hear and understand without self-blame and without shame. Only then can we glean what was going on.  The truth is the truth and once we can accept it from a higher level of consciousness, we are freed from the grip of the past. That’s what we want. Freedom.

Healing insights may become a book. I don’t yet know. What I do know is I am not alone. This is for all the EMPATHS who strive to survive. This should have been collaborative and unifying and it became a weird culture of isolation amidst often ruthless and unexpected competition. No one talked about it. Empath women, in particular, struggled with ‘what is really going on?’ Most dropped out of corporate and moved on.

The Revolutionaries

As a woman who graduated from college in 1979, I entered the work force filled with thoughts from the women’s rights revolution. Gloria Steinem and Betty Friedan shaped the thoughts of my youthful mind. I believed we’d won and that women had equal opportunities. I sought work comparable to my male counterparts. I sought the same kinds of opportunities and often found myself working with some pretty rude competition. I was competing with the ghost of what I thought was right while there were hidden games that no one explained to me. It wasn’t even a glass ceiling. It was a barrier to getting off the starting block!

Not Knowing

The trouble was I didn’t realize what it was. Where I thought work was collaborative as it was in college team exercises, the work place was fraught with hidden competition. Often it takes a great manager to stand up to the bs. One coworker, Kristine, tried to convince my manager that I wasn’t ready to take on an assignment.  He told me all about it. She was playing games. I won that one because my manager was awesome! But I didn’t know it then as a competitive thing. Now I know better. Kristine saw me as competition.

Healing Insights. It’s that aha moment where you just get it. It can come easily and early on — or like today, this Healing Insight has comes to me so many years later I can’t count.

Todays Insight

Today’s insight comes from one ridiculous job at a major aircraft manufacturer. On the first day, I waited some 5 hours before the manager showed up. I’m not even sure why I waited that day. Nothing went well for this job. They stopped training early on day 2 of a 4-day plan. They just stopped. A coworker and I were mystified, but she had contacts in high places and arranged for an easy transfer.  I also learned how easy it was for the company to tweak a transfer to force a layoff. They suddenly transferred me elsewhere where I was the low girl on the totem pole and suddenly on the layoff block. I also learned that some management games include beefing up the headcount in anticipation of coming layoffs. Previously, my ranking had me safe while my lower ranked co-workers were 2 grades below me.  Heck, they never provided enough information to do my job. After the transfer, the people just played with me. First I was given a desk and assigned to be someone’s understudy. She was hardly interested in training me. She seemed to want to prove something. I never did figure out what the deal was, but if I asked a question about processes, she got pretty upset. I suspect she felt threatened. Or vindictive. It could have been a race thing just as easily as it could have been an unwillingness to do her job. She enjoyed walking around introducing me to her personal friends but was disinterested in transferring knowledge as she’d been assigned.

At first, I had a normal desk amidst the group, but suddenly that was taken away. I was moved to a back table terminal of sorts. My workspace consisted of a computer terminal with room for a cup of coffee to the right of my keyboard and about 10 inches of a shared table top to the left. I guess it would be tolerated if others had the same kind of space, but it was just me in a room of many others. The weird thing about it was the location was next to the community coffee pot, so all kinds of people stopped to talk — including several managers. My manager didn’t like that one bit!!! Plus, I knew people in several other parts of the company who gave me great information.

The point is not the whining about a crap job with decent pay and benefits. I was glad for the stability but hated the job. Layoffs were coming but I wanted a transfer to where I’d worked in earlier days with good people with whom a mutual respect was shared. The point is the Healing Insights that hit me today.

The Signs of Energetic Combat

I suddenly saw that the woman who was assigned to train me and get me up to speed was purely focused on making me miserable. It was combat for her. I wonder.. can it be a war if one side doesn’t acknowledge the battle? It was the energetics that mattered. The world as I saw it should be collaborative, and it wasn’t. In that case, it was likely fueled by racial tension — black woman against white woman. And yes! It happens. But again, what matters is that we understand the energy behind it and do everything possible to keep ourselves free of the energetics involved.

When things go wrong, when everything has this odd feeling of ‘what the heck is really going on here’ and you start to feel crazy… it’s often not about you. It’s often an energetic thing. You feel it but you can’t put your finger on exactly what it is. You just know. It’s an empath thing. Being an Empath means you literally feel the energy around you. In those old days, I thought mind would win over emotion. I got that mindset from my Dad. But in reality — it was a bad energy and a bad gig. And Logic was telling me something completely opposite of my inner knowing. When your inner being screams opposite what logic indicates, listen up. 

It was a lesson of sorts. Today, I see that in each weird circumstance, there was an energy left over from it. Had I understood energetics and healing then, I would have found ways to protect my being from their toxicity. I would have also found ways to remove all residual energetics from my being before ever moving on. It’s not just in the mind — somehow the stress and tension of these weirdly invasive energies stays until we become aware, and choose to heal.

We Can’t Force the Healing … and Great Jobs Come and Go

I’ve had many great jobs. Life didn’t stop with this crazy situation. But from that moment, things were always kind of off. Today… Today… I get the healing insight that can change everything. That’s why the inner work is essential and deep.We never really know what we submerged until we are ready to heal from it. That’s the other big Healing Insight. We can’t force the healing. And when we recognize the energetic chords, we can remove them!

The good jobs were there. I had one manager who always challenged me to be better and gave me great guidance. Another boss welcomed ideas, wanted his staff to come up with solutions, and had no patience for those who sat back and waited to be told what to do.

Move Through Resistance

As we move through our resistance to true wealth, we end up seeing things differently. This morning, I was hit with a realization. For all of the good in my life, for all the wonderful people, places, things, accomplishments, there were many points where I could have used healing energetic knowledge to protect me from the toxic people who played me. Simple. I didn’t know. And I’m only now understanding that even these ancient experiences can leave threads of a connection — until we heal the energetic boundaries. And then…good things return, life is restored, abundance flows once more.

Healing Insights

Healing Messages: Come when you are ready

The messages come when we are ready to receive them.

As a life coach, I can help people raise their vibration, become aware, and tap into their inner wisdom.

As an integrative health coach, I can bring you to this space of healthy insights that guide you to your true wealth.

http://www.ramblinlambwellness.com is where the health coaching starts. We work together and make it easy and fun.

Attraction Action and effortless ease

Attraction Action isn’t about doing. It’s about being. It’s about focusing on joy, on happiness, on things that make us feel alive. All this talk of the Law of Attraction seems kind of silly in that we all inherently KNOW what makes us happy is what is supposed to be good. And if we find things that bring joy – that sense of vibrancy, we are called to pursue them. The Attraction Action is about inaction. Or inattention. For if we simply focus on what feels healthy and good and makes us smile then we are already focused on the Law of Attraction. Yes?

Attraction Action

Attraction Action: Effortless Ease can be real

Is not the Law of Attraction really about mind management? In my NLP training we focus on reprogramming the brain. We learned techniques to rewire the brain as if it was the great communications center that programs our being. Reframing beliefs means resetting. I’ve overcome much by doing just that. But the money thing? Somehow, it didn’t fall into the Laws. Why?

Other people told me things that I failed to recognize as ‘their blocks’ but that they weren’t mine. I took it on. When a job that I hated went away, instead of feeling excited about all the new opportunities, I heard the shaming and felt bad. That feeling bad led to FUD. Instead of using the Attraction Action plan, I used the FUD plan. I blocked my energy field with my own inner fight against believing their fears. Their fears became my own.

Focus on things that feel good and leave the rest out of the equation!!!!

I know when that stopped for me. So how does one block out the family patterns of negativity and return to what feels good?

They return to thoughts of happiness flowing such as dancing. Such as being. Such as just living life in ways that are filled with joy. It matters not that things aren’t what you want today. What matters is how you stay focused on the truth. The truth of who you are. The truth of what you want. The truth!

Things stop working for me when I let other people’s stinking thinking, negative “you can’ts, you aren’t good enoughs, or you aren’t qualifieds, or you just aren’t enoughs” or worse — ” you just aren’t welcome here” into my thoughts. And if one thought like that leads to blockage and then I hear over and over other people saying same things…I block up the flow.

If I understand the Law of Attraction correctly, it does not matter what has happened in the past. What matters is that I continue to focus on joy now. I continue to feed and nurture myself with thoughts of abundance now. I nurture the notion that there is gold dust everywhere for me and I am open to receive.

That’s the Attraction Action.
It does not mean inaction. It’s actually a lot of work. And the more I work on this, the better I feel The more you work on this the better you feel. The better you feel, the better life gets.
It does not mean do nothing and expect the world to be handed to you. It means do what you feel called to do and do it with mindfulness of spirit. Mindfulness of seeking, seeing, and receiving opportunities.

The Attraction Action is not just stupidly walking around being happy. It’s not empty words of encouragement to others. It’s finding that point of attraction magic where you are warm and you share your warmth with others. That is the Attraction Action — the warm light of hope, the warm light of happy confidence where you dance with life and feel vibrant and empowered. It does not come from hot air like over confidence. It comes from nurturing yourself into truly believing with unshakable love for yourself that you can, you will, you are!

Yes, we are in a transitory place. The economy is the economy. Our age is our age. We can’t fight that. What we can do is practice the Attraction Action.
And you know what? It’s not really about money at all.  It’s about true wealth.

A friend introduced me to an author and in the first few pages, I was glued. This work made the whole Law of Attraction both clear and unnecessary. I love listening to the work, but in Ms. Ponder’s writing came a different kind of clarity.

Good Vibrations – Attraction Good

Raising Your Vibe. Good Vibrations.

5 Great Ways to Raise Your Good Vibration

It’s not a new concept. Way back in the dark ages of the 70’s, my attorney cousin from LA talked about Vibes! Ellen was the happiest, kindest, and least likely to fall into the darkness of anyone I’ve ever met. She was just that happy lady who wanted to help people. She’s the first person whom I heard this from decades ago. I thought it was an LA thing.

The positivity movement has resurged. When people talk about Raising Your Vibration they are simply saying get those Good Vibrations humming along. It’s not just pollyanna positive, and not just a law of attraction theory. It’s the way to build happiness and attract good – lots of good. Some people masterfully raise their vibrations.. others use it to do harm and don’t even know it.

We all want to feel vibrant, happy, healthy, and positive.  Right? We know unconsciously that the way to do that is to combine several techniques.
I’m going to share the good, the bad, and the iffy. And I’m going to post links to some of the books that make a difference. There is a lot of whack out there. And I’ll reinforce the good and help you avoid the whack.

How do we ensure we are amping up our vibrations? How is easy. Why is the question? And when you learn these simple tricks, you can master your good vibrations.
Why do we even care?

you can change everything good vibrations to attract good

Energetic Boundaries by Cyndi Dale

Well, we care because we want to protect ourselves from negative energy. Failing to do so ultimately harms our internal boundaries – the ones that we don’t consciously think about. These are the ones that snag on little entrails of other people’s emotional claws. In the book Energetic Boundaries, the concept becomes clear. We must heal our energy boundaries in order to become free of the entanglements and unwanted hooks others put upon us — things that we accepted at some point are no longer working.

INVISIBLE POWER POSITIONS
We do this in 5  key ways. We make conscious what previously was an unconscious action. We learn to listen to our inner stillness. We come to know. We ask ourselves and listen for the answers. We know intuitively what to do if we turn in.

1: Foods – Eating for what you want – a high vibration, means eating foods that lighten and uplift you. Not diet foods, but foods that reach for the sky. Superfoods. Nutrient Dense, Colorful, high fiber, lower carb, and no sugar, no fake foods.  Sure we want to indulge, but when you do the 9010 program of eating, you naturally raise your body to a higher vibration. Eating better attracts all kinds of good. You know this. You know that when you clean up your diet, cut out the low fiber, no nutrient white foods, you feel lighter. You know that by simply cutting out heavy fatty foods you suddenly feel more energized. And you know that when you get rid of the sugary stuff, you have a steadier energy flow all day long.

A powerful book I picked up while in nutrition school crystallized my belief that food energy is not just the nutrients but how the food source was nurtured, raised, and processed. Steve Gagner goes into it deeply in his book, Food Energetics.

2: Activities – This one is simple. The more you move, the more energy you have. The more energy you feel, the more you do. This is step one in raising your vibrations. Good vibrations hum about you and other people feel it. You feel better. They feel good about you. That’s good vibrations.  And balancing this with calm is so important. I know. I can be absolutely energized to the point I walk in a room and heads turn. I’m not doing anything but feeling good and happy. What they feel is an energetic pull. It frightens some.  I eventually learned to find a balance. In part, seeking your tribe of movers helps with this one. It’s hard to maintain that high activity vibe when your friends want to sit and smoke and feast on crap food. So seek out your tribal dancers and get up offa that thang.  yeah, James Brown had it going on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_uNMy20qAI

3: Powerful Choices – Ok this is tricky. Choices make the difference. Do you feel down some days? Feel hopeless, unworthy, unloved? Do you dwell on the past? Do you find yourself remorseful? I wasted far too much time grieving for what was never to be. I wanted what I couldn’t have and it was out of my control. But I loved them so much, I kept trying to figure out what I did that was so wrong — and there was nothing! CHOICES — POWERFUL CHOICES are the turning points. And when you CHOOSE POWERFULLY — you infuse yourself with a higher vibrational tuning.

4: Attentions – what you resist persists. Please give yourself a break. If you are constantly fighting something that keeps showing up in your conscience, address it. Don’t hide.There is a message there. But don’t obsess either. What you pour your attention on is what you bring to you. For example, when you focus on what you want – a job, a man, a new car — everything you see is filtered by that want. So when you focus on what you don’t want, that also becomes what you see.  I’m all for attending to stuff, and not ignoring the stinking thinking. It comes from somewhere, so it’s good to root it out. If you kill the top flower of a week, the root keeps growing. So while tending the garden of you, you have to keep an eye on the results you want and be willing to get rid of what you don’t. When you pull out the roots, they no longer grow. That’s freedom!

5: Intentions – Be clear here. What you intend must be aligned with you. You must find the way to hold your intentions in your heart-center, and know that while some things take time, all things are available when we are aligned with our intentions. My intention right now is to reset, to restart, to find the answer to How Can I Retire and Make a LOT of Money with much less effort? That’s where I am. I’m intending to find solutions. The Intention Experiment is a juicy look into setting your intentions clearly. And many thanks to my friend, Mark Andersen for sending this to me. Such a nice gift from a good friend.

This morning, as I again revised a resume to pitch to another employer how great I think I am, I ran into an audio on Monster.com.  It’s not just another how to make money book pitch. It’s a lady who shares how she constantly struggled and then ultimately reclaimed her right to win and be bold.
Right there on Monster was a talk and an idea: Believe in your self. Be a Bad Ass. You are a Badass. So be one with it. And quickly, I picked up two books:

and

Why is any of this important? Why can’t we just go through life, living it on life’s terms? Why does intentionally raising our vibration even matter? Well, it matters because if you become the one people dump their story on when they are down but they run away when you are down, you are somehow letting them steal your energy. It became essential to me to re-establish and heal energetic boundaries. And then I had to reclaim my intentions. If you are a sensitive, an empath, a healer or even a caregiver, you know some of this. You just do. Turn inward, tap in, and see if it resonates.

It’s not that I want to start completely over. If I did, I’d be throwing away what I hold near and dear. ME. The ME I worked so hard to cultivate. The ME that had to accept what is in order to create what would be the new me. Failure wasn’t the issue. Rejection by loved ones was. I had to fight back from nothing into something and that included restoring the real me. The challenge is to maintain good vibrations while I swim through the challenging upstream of relaunching. The hard part is the rocks and boulders I encounter, and the easy part is to keep focusing on raising my good vibrations so that I bump up against but don’t bruise me.

That’s why I know. I know how hard it can be. I know that when CS called me and said: “You just aren’t happy enough for me. I’m letting you go” It wasn’t about me. And it still hurt. I hadn’t hired her. I said something she took wrong. And she judged me.  Fine enough. For I know this was the same woman who cried rivers on my shoulder about her crappy family stuff. I knew too that there was some truth to it for life was giving me a lesson and I’d not found the solutions yet. Beware the trolls! They sneak up on you, say something, and you have to be strong enough to take what you like and leave the rest.  Or leave it all. 🙂

The IFFY STUFF:
And that’s where the iffy stuff comes in. You can raise your good vibrations on your own. You don’t need a guru. You can get those Good Vibrations in so many ways. There is so much on this planet for us. But we must watch out for self-proclaimed guru’s who take our money while building their dreams of false lies and misperceptions. It’s sometimes cult like attractions.
I just tested this out. I have a lot of knowledge and experience. But someone offered a cheap online coaching thing that sounded fun. Lady offered dirt cheap coaching in a group. I may have been seeking synergy and friends, but after 45 days of so called online coaching, I knew they were not of my tribe. The pattern was clear. On day 40 she stopped doing her daily stuff and was promoting gently her next class – which of course was 3 x the price. The promise is an intangible feel good storyline and the offer is I can help you blah blah blah. If you accept, you pay to play, she tells you what she thinks, and you either get what you came for or you don’t. The results don’t last long so the coach hopes you go back for more.

“I hurt – they say they have answers – I feel better for a minute – then they are asking for more and more money – I’m not so sure anymore – one more class — then another – then wtf am I doing here!@”

Yeah — be your own guru. And if you want some help learning to do that, of course, I can help you. I’m not a guru. I’m not a saint. And a lot of self-proclaimed guru’s get really angry at me when I dare to share what I know. I’m not a threat to them, but they feel something challenging about me. It must be because I teach my clients and myself to tap into their own inner wisdom.

 

Light Easy Summer Meals – call for a end of summer special coaching session

Light Easy Summer Meals?   Oh yeah, you can. Ban the donuts. Toss out that cereal. Skip the Oatmeal. I never thought to question the typical American breakfast until I was on a tour in Isreal. Every breakfast was cucumber, tomato, and cheese with maybe a little bread.  And why not? During these hot summer days, a fresh and flavorful breakfast needs to be cold, light and refreshing.

Have you ever thought about how to make breakfast light, refreshing, and colorful? It’s been pretty hot here in the Pacific Northwest. So hot that I’m more likely to skip breakfast if there’s nothing refreshing. Oatmeal on a hot day just does not appeal.

Chopped Mediterranean Salad is filled with color, texture, and a light crunch.There’s just something about eating a bowlful of color and texture with a light snap on those hot days.
Add some crunch or add some protein, and you have a great start to a hot, sizzling day. And if like me, you make enough extra that you get to enjoy it for dinner too.

I showed one on my facebook page: @ramblinlambwellness
Here’s the original: http://www.haaretz.com/jewish/food/1.698731

My twist on this Mediterranean Salad:
Chop up in similar sized bite-sized chunks:
Cucumber
Tomato
Red Pepper
Red onion
Some Parsley
Basil
Add Feta Crumbles
sliced or chopped Calamata Olives
Options:
Chopped Avocado
Gabanzo or Pinto Bean
Can use Black Olives instead of Calamatas

Dress with
Lemon Juice
Olive Oil
Salt
Pepper

It’s so good. And the colorful bowl makes for a happy, high vibration day.

Want more? There is so much to play with to create light easy summer meals. Thinking out of the box is great. Consider eating for fuel. Think about light easy ways to adopt your favorite meals. Save time by cooking once and cooking enough to create several meals. Roast a chicken or two, and prepackage some light combinations of vegetables. You’ll have a nice selection of homemade and prepackaged light easy meals at the ready.  It’s how we roll at the BeWellBistro. Keeping a stock of light easy meals starts with a bit of forethought. Check out our health coaching programs.  http://www.ramblinlambwellness.com

Have you ever just eaten something that made you smile? Felt a bit of a buzz? I mean the good kind of buzz when you just have a happy vibe and feel a bit of pep?
Have you ever noticed the colors and textures in your foods?
I was in a coaching circle where the coach claimed that her program would help people raise their vibration. The only thing that was not purely wish craft was the simplicity of cleaning up your diet. But she gave no tips, offered no real nutritional thought other than Clean Your Diet and do my meditations.

It’s so funny how easy it is. One simple little thing can tip your balance to a better food profile. For me, it’s often starting with plenty of fresh produce in the morning.
I don’t even mean a juice or smoothie anymore. I mean eat a bowl of vegetables or fruit. No one said you have to eat bread or cereal for breakfast. Pancakes? Haven’t had them in years. It’s a total misnomer.
Breakfast can be anything.

We no longer live in a world where we have to carb load for a full day’s energy like the hunters and farmers did. It is rare that anyone needs to eat like they are burning off thousands of calories before lunch.

 

The Circle Can Guide

This Circle of Life is a guide to balancing your life. A renewed you starts with a glance at what is before moving towards what will be.  Call for coaching sessions. I make it a fun exploration into possibilities. It starts with a simple conversation that can change your life. Coach Nancy 425-246-8685

 

Home Simplified

Home Simplified is a concept. The big trend these days is to downsize, simplify, and go natural. What that means to me is making life something to treasure, but not making everything a chore. That’s where simplified cooking comes in.

Take the other night. The plan was to make a double batch of meat balls ala the Feed Zone. By the time I was ready to make them, it was too late, I was tired, and my recently repaired hip was cranky.

In a burst of creativity, out came an idea for a meatloaf. A killer meatloaf that was a combination creativity and tried and true recipes. Why not? Meatballs aren’t that different from Meatloaf. I had what I needed. Almost.

It started out as a normal recipe. Never making it before this way, doubling it was probably wasteful. I had my doubts. But hey, once I got going… Let me just say that I made two full sized meatloafs in the same amount of time it would take to make one. The intention was to freeze the second one.

My husband went nuts. He went back for more 3 times. He raved. He was thrilled. He nearly exploded in happiness he loved it so much. Need I say there was nothing left to freeze? We enjoyed it for 2 dinners, and he killed the rest for lunch.
Let me also say that I have hated meatloaf since my college days. I couldn’t look at it. It was awful. But now? OMG this recipe could be sold.

No photos.. we ate it too fast and it was too good. Might happen next time. Here’s the recipe. Enjoy. And if you need help with customizing your favorite recipes.. give me a holler.

Not Your Normal Meatloaf

Hip Repair brings it up to the surface

Hip Repair brings it up

a poem of sorts…

As the Hip goes
It can stop our flow.
Hip Repair
Beware.

Emotions flow.
Worries Go.
Hopes arise.
Time to fly, time to shine.

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Karma and the Morning Muse: Thinking about how your behavior affects your health

Karma and the Morning muse:
Karma comes around like the morning — it always comes. I write from a perspective of 10 years of being here, helping, managing, and somehow surviving against all odds. This is not about the political shitstorm. This is not about the ACA or it’s imminent repeal. This is about human nature. This is about karma. Good or Bad, the wise man said Instant Karma gonna get ya. I think he is right. 

How you treat people is up to you. In my opinion, it’s essential to our well-being. Why? Because when we treat other humans poorly, it affects us personally. When we treat others with vindictive resentment, it becomes a toxin in our system. The way we treat others has a way of coming back to us. Sometimes fast, sometimes slow, but it comes back.  It always comes back.

instant karma gonna get you

What you give, ultimately it comes back to get you.

Would you tell someone that has had a stroke to just ignore it and live normally?
Would you tell someone who lost a limb that they should grow a new one?
Do you tell a cancer patient that they just need to be more active and get out more?
Would you try to convince someone with dementia that they can and should do everything they did before, push harder, and work harder?
Would you tell your Mom, Your brother, Your neighbor that they aren’t really sick even though you can see they are suffering?
If a friends child has a difficult and chronic illness or something severe, do you offer compassion or tell them how they must parent?
 
Would you insist that a complicated disease isn’t real? Would you insist that your lay medical assumptions are more valid that the medical experts across the globe who don’t understand the illness? Do you demand that your person follows your lay advice? And if they don’t you just give up on them and bail?

Karma comes around. Be a jerk and you get treated like a jerk. Be kind, kindness comes back.
 

Would you ever say things to their only advocate that indicate you think they are enabling and should just stop? Would you tell them that the person afflicted doesn’t deserve your help?
What would you feel if you were the one receiving these kinds of judgment?
How would you respond? No, really. How would you deal with this? It’s the reason those who become ill tend to isolate. It’s the reason families are torn apart and caregivers start to avoid being with friends. It’s not about being needed 24 / 7 — often it’s a matter of being in solitude is more nurturing than being with judgmentals who can’t find their heart.
I am deeply grateful to our friends who have stayed with us through this nightmare. Erica, David, Jerry, Sean, and Kristi, in particular, have been amazing. They know! They get it.  Their friendship is such a gift. Such a treasure to not have to explain repeatedly and then feel like they just don’t get it.
 
I’ve lived with my beloved for many years and through many things. He was a tough guy who overcame many pain points. He was a hard worker and hard driving hiker. Now, it takes far to long to explain to others repeatedly what his illness is and why it is the way it is. It’s not dementia, but it’s like it. It’s not MS, but it’s like it. He does not need a nurse or a caregiver. He needs help and he needs a manager. And companionship from people other than his wife. 
 
I guess what I don’t understand is the calloused attitude so many have – knowing full well that if it happened to them, their choices would be as difficult as mine. I’ve literally had people tell me that if he didn’t get better, couldn’t get back to normal, that I should leave him. Yes, they have said exactly that and worse. 
 
I’m just saying: What is wrong with people? 
 I’ve heard too many calloused, insensitive comments over the past 10 years. Would people start treating others with more love and light if they ate right? If they stopped buying guns and eating meat from murdered animals, would they become softer hearted? Would they be more generous to the planet, the forests, the waterways if they ate more fresh foods that grow from the ground or swam in the sea?

 

 

People have unfriended me because I speak my mind articulately and eloquently. People have bragged about feeding the homeless or giving to their church while doing nothing to help those they are staring at. Maybe they need that separation. It’s like they get kudos for feeding strangers, but it scares them to help a friend or a relative. People who have plenty are expecting freebies while frowning on those who can’t afford whatever.
 
Yesterday I was called a very nasty, nasty woman, told I was a liberal twit, and later called a lesbian. Huh? I thought about it. I wrote back: Fuck Yeah, I am. I’m a NASTY WOMAN and I own it. LOL What these people seem to think is that compassion and consideration for others is a sin. I’ll never understand that. 
I’m not going to let this stranger bother me. It is truly all about taking care of myself, fighting when it’s right, standing up and standing my ground. With joy in my heart, I resist the haters.
I don’t care who you voted for. I don’t care that you have a different religion. I don’t care if you go to church and I don’t care if you don’t. If you are a human being, I expect you to act like you have a heart even if you lost it somewhere. 

Change takes time – call today for a personalized program that’s all about you

Change takes time!
So you want to lose that weight? And you want to regain your strength? Or get flexible? Or maybe you are just tired of hurting all the time, aching, feeling stuffed? Maybe you just want to feel lighter and enjoy moving. Or you want to start looking great again.

Look: It took you a while to get where you are. So stop expecting overnight change.  Stop thinking you can lose 20 pounds a day! Stop torturing yourself with crazy expectations that just because you went off sugar for a week you will turn it all around. And please, stop beating yourself up because on day 8 you succumbed to the call of a cookie.

My new hair stylist tells me her hubby goes to a weight loss program. It’s expensive she says, but for $3000 he gets help losing weight, learning how to cook, learning how to live healthfully. While he is happily preparing whole clean foods, she can’t have her sweet treats in the house. She can’t even eat with him.

Guess what?
With the BeWellBistro plan, you get to make change fun! You get to have fun, lose weight and feel great as you make change matter.

breakfast isn’t boring anymore

You don’t need to spend $3000 for 10 months of food talks. You don’t do weekly meetings weighing in and scrutinizing your daily menu. If you buy packaged foods, it won’t be forced on you as the only way to do this. I might recommend some things, like my Univera Products or my favorite Bone Broth. but I’m just as happy sharing amazing recipes and teaching you to cook like a chef.  No boxed meals, baby.

All you need to do is decide right now that you really want to feel better. Not just lighter, but vibrant, happy, and positive. Yes, I can teach you to manage your moods, change your attitudes, and elevate your happiness. If that’s sounding good, just call me.

Change takes time. Diets don’t work. Spend more or your money on good food and education. Spend less on gimmicks and get rich quick schemes. You don’t need gimmicks — you need to find your true pathway to health. Retraining your brain to like healthy foods is only part of the solution. You don’t have to do it alone and you don’t need to blow the vacation budget either.

As your Integrative Health Coach, my goal is to help you recreate yourself for lasting health and high vibrational living. It’s not just food. It’s a balance. And it’s essentially the same concept that they taught at the Mayo’s Integrative Wellness consultation. Yep — it’s not even rocket science. But it takes time and commitment. The best way is to make one change at a time – but be committed to it 100%.  And that’s where my personalized coaching comes to be your most valued trick in the book.

Why do you need a health mentor? Your doctors will tell you what you need to do. Your spouse might just tell to lose weight. Your buddies will razz you until you succumb and drink that ‘one more’ beer or indulge in that cheesecake.  While they are doing their ‘job’, what you really need is that extra conscience. That voice in your head isn’t enough sometimes — you need a friend you can count on. That friend is your bridge to help you cross over to the healthy side of life.

Like the first little bloom — fighting our way through the cold and dark ..

Seriously, it’s become a big thing in our daily lives to have mentors for everything. When I grew up, it was ‘figure it out kid’, not here let me guide you.
With me on your team, you get that guiding spark that leads you down your path. What’s different about a health mentor?  We work on your personal life circle, spoke by spoke. We craft out a new you, together. You talk. I ask leading questions. We investigate, explore, and move you forward. And when the shit hits the fan, as it always does, I’m right there to get you back on track.

I invite you to change. I invite you to indulge in an individualized program based on YOU. From my school, we call it BioIndividuality — every human being is slightly different. No one program works for everyone.  So — Call today to start on yours!  It’s all about you.  425-246-8685

That’s why I’m still alive, folks. There are many points when it could have been a different ending.

My turning points:
I’ve been there. I’ve been heavy at 149 and I’ve been 98 pounds skinny. I grew up getting chastised for gaining even 3 pounds.  I’ve done lot’s of drugs and I’ve smoked 2 packs a day. And I’ve been an outdoor enthusiast who loves to move all my life.  I would run 8 miles and then light up. I’d drink at night and get up early to sweat it out. I’ve lost jobs, lost loves, lost friends and family… I’ve had good years, I’ve had horrible decades. Navigating life is about knowing yourself and having a strategy for long lasting health.

It wasn’t until I realized how much I can help you that I started pulling it together. My path started making sense. See – my life has far too many twists and turns to make into a pretty story. I had much pain to hide from and all the compulsive behavior was about a lifelong battle with self-esteem issues.  We all do weird stuff as we learn to love ourselves. And then it happens.

The minute we start to believe we are more important, have more value, have more worth — and that there is a reason we are who we are — from that moment, life starts changing. Sure we must have something to move forward to — but when one is dedicated, magic happens.

There are many twists and turns.  Extreme stress requires extreme self-care. Maybe just daily living requires constant extreme self-care.

Change comes by accepting what is

Inviting you to change

I haven’t always been a health nut. Even when I started out, I wasn’t perfect.
At 18, I made a choice… I didn’t want to wait until retirement to be healthy. I gave up bad habits. I chose to eat good foods and limit junk. I built an exercise program from scratch without the help of a trainer or even a gym. I changed what, when, and how I ate. And for years, I still lit up a cigarette far too many times a day.

Then someone died. Then another and another. Within 3 years, 7 people close to me died, 6 from cancer. Three of these dear ones were under 50!!~!
Precious loved ones were dying around me and I kept smoking…until Jerry S. had a return of cancer. That was it. I’ll never forget. I was at his memorial, and I just decided. That was a rough year. But losing Jerry turned a key.
It wasn’t easy to change at that age. It never is… but I really didn’t remember a time in my adult life without a cigarette handy. That was over 25 years of cigarettes as a fake and dangerous friend.

Yes, You CAN! If I can, you can! And I will teach you all my tricks!

Do you really want to stop smoking? Are you ready?

Do you really want to lose weight – or do you want to accomplish some other health goal?

I realize now that what I’d done was create the cornerstone of my practice by quitting smoking. There is much internal work to do to get you from thinking you are ready to really being ready. And if you give me 45 days, you can kick start your new life. And of course, you can sign on for ongoing coaching. But let’s get this show moving forward first. What I can teach you in 45 days can become your cornerstone to a new life.

It’s the same thing with any bad habit. In particular, the food problem.  You’ve got to get to the root reason that you continue to eat what you know you shouldn’t and find the pay off. There is always one – and in our work together, you learn all about hidden hook. for continuing on the road you follow before you will cross over a bridge to happier, healthier living. I’ve watched a man drop 60 pounds, be so thrilled and happy. I’ve witnessed a family lose 110 pounds. And another woman went from 350 to 120 and is a monster at cross fit. If they can, you can shed some excess weight. Why WAIT?

We work together through your ultimate transition and beyond. We keep you on track for a lifetime of lasting change.  And the truth is, I am your guide but YOU are the reason you are doing this. Because YOU are worth it. No quick fix, and no sudden change — but a lifetime of living well.

There are many roads to cross. Some of those roads have locked gates keeping you stuck. The key is within your reach.  That plan won’t be to eat clean 100% — that’s a set up for failure.

Listen to me: I tried that. I went overboard, actually. I was 25 and recovering from a lost job. I found a new one, but I felt amiss. As I mastered my work, I obsessed about every calorie. And not just what I ate. I obsessed about what I burned. Nothing entered my mouth that was not counted. I could tell you exactly how many calories it took to burn off everything I ate. Yeah, I looked great for a while. Then I was down to 98 pounds, I wore a size 0, my skin was taught, I looked like I was starving … and I still counted calories.  Only my uncle had the grace to mention it. No one should do that! Ever!

Once again, I made a new commitment. Reasonable was not obsessive. It was ok to not be a skinny me. I wanted to feel great and have fun, live life fully, and embrace the authentic me. Starvation was not on that menu.

You see many who just keep doing the same thing until literally scared to death. Something major happens. For me, I’ve had many awakenings over my lifetime. True Health begins with a desire to be your best. To get there, you have to learn to love yourself.

For most of my clients, it’s about retraining the brain. That’s why I integrate several modalities to help you arm yourself with all that you need.
You get support. You get knowledge. You get tools. And you get to learn to relax and reprogram your thinking.

These are things I help people work through. In our private coaching, what you get is a chance to really learn about you. I’ve worked with clients using a variety of tools: Visualization, Writing, Meditation, Light Trance (NLP) and rock solid dietary advice coming from studies in hundreds of dietary theory. I use my education in nutrition, adult learning, yoga, recreation, and writing to help you craft your personalized life plan for healthy living.

Don’t pay those guys with the cute logo and fun advertising. Just because the radio announcer is screaming about how he lost weight, it doesn’t mean it’s a plan for YOU in your life. How many other times did that same radio head scream about other weight loss programs? They sell you. You buy. You lose 10 – 20 – 30 pounds, and then you get off the path, fall into old ways, and wonder why you paid them. But you also blame yourself.

Let’s just stop this nonsense.

Call me! I’ll help.
call today for a personalized program that’s all about you
425-246-8685

Oh — here’s more on my health coaching website too: RamblinLambWellness – Nancy’s Coaching Programs

Disclaimer: Nothing is free. If only I had trees of money. But hey, my rates are determined based on quality education, knowledge, professional resources, and a lifetime of work. Not gonna say it’s free, but it’s your life and YOU are worth it.

New Super Food: Marijuana heals – Find out who is really behind blocking the plant use

Marijuana! If it’s so good why is it so bad?

New Super Food! Ok, it’s not new at all. And it’s not really a food. Marijuana – Cannabis – a plant that has far ranging benefits. My OB/Gyn mentioned cannabis when I asked about pain management. It’s no joke. It’s not just an excuse to get wasted. There are true medicinal and healthy lifestyle benefits from the mighty green. It’s a super plant.  Cannabis heals and helps people all over the world.

The Magic is in the Flower. It gives flower power a new meaning.

Marijuana – or Cannabis – does a lot of good. It helps a wide variety of people with a wide variety of ailments. It can be recreational or it can be medicinal.  Or Both. Marijuana! It’s time to break down the stigma and learn some truths. And coming from me, a long time health fanatic, it’s almost a contradiction – except that it’s not. Once I learned the truth, studied the history, studied the medicinal uses, it all became clear. It’s a plant. The real value comes when you use it with the right intention.

THE NEW SUPER FOOD!  Marijuana – it does more good than bad. When used with the right intention, it’s becoming the common choice for medical solutions too complicated for medical doctors to understand.

PTSD, Chronic Pain, Inflammation, Arthritis, Nausea, Skin issues, MS, and a bunch of other things are helped with no side effects. Doctors don’t seem to want to know. Less damage than wine, less toxic than most pills, double the anti-inflammatory effect than hydrocortisone with NONE of the side effects, sleep aid, energy, creative stimulus… It’s genius!

marijuana - it's a super plant

Medical Marijuana – A Natural Solution

 

And yet – the real opposition has nothing to do with abuse or addictions. Looks like it has everything to do with profit margins and fear of losing control – not by the people but by the corporate systems. It’s a threat to a major profit machine.

Weird. When one asks themselves why a doctor would ignore this simple, effective, non-toxic solution, or why the DEA refuses to change the schedule to make it non-criminal, there has to be a profit motive. It can’t be anything else. It’s not weird. It’s either misunderstood or it’s about money. Even when I completed the Anti-Inflammation and Oncology classes at Arizona State, nothing was mentioned about medicinal weed — AND THEY ARE THE FRONTRUNNERS on inflammation.
My recent studies indicate that pot has double the anti-inflammation effect than hydrocortisone.  It helps with PTSD, Stress, Anxiety, Depression, MS, CFS, Arthritis Pain, Epilepsy, Phantom Pain, and some say it can help with Alzheimers….   And NO side effects.

I’d talked with my OB/GYN. I went in for an annual visit. I asked her about pain management because this hip thing is destroying my ability to manage the rest of my life. We talked at length. She’s sold on the benefits, but can’t prescribe? What? Wait – it’s legal. I’ll just go to the store. When Washington State forced the Medical MJ shops to close, we lost valuable resources here. It’s really frustrating. And Fun because I’m learning. There is so much more to this than I’d ever imagined.

This isn’t the same weed I knew as a kid. It’s a sophisticated system of growing, and sophisticated delivery. Plus – I don’t want to get high. Not really. I made a commitment decades ago.

But now I read about the true reasons this plant became a controlled substance.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/09/09/a-maker-of-deadly-painkillers-is-bankrolling-the-opposition-to-legal-marijuana-in-arizona/

Choose Healthy: What do you want?

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Choose healthy! What do you Want? How Can I help you get there? What do you need to get you to where you want to be?

What do you really want? You can’t find contentment if you don’t know what you are looking for.  Choose healthy: it’s always a choice. But what do you want? What do you really, really want? Is it less weight, more energy, deal with pain, counter fatigue? I can best help you if I truly know your needs. Not your wants. Not even your goals. What is it you need to do what it takes to get what you want?

Nancy here. We started this page as a hangout. A place to gather. I’d love some guest bloggers.  I’d love to exchange stories and see what a common focus is. I know what’s important to me. But what about you? What do you need to Choose Healthy? What is it that would elevate your choices from a kinda half-assed healthy to all they time Choose Healthy as a way of living?

Are you looking for ways to fight illness?
Ways to deal with arthritis?
Do you want meal plans, menu ideas?
Do you want budget focused healthy options?
Look- I’m not a rich chick with oodles of surplus money. If I can live healthy on any kind of budget, I can sure teach you my methods.
If it’s not knowing how to shop – I can help there too.
Some clients really just want validation, happiness, and self-love. They need to know that that ooey-gooey chocolate cake doesn’t mean death to their diet! And it doesn’t.
I don’t know — what do you really want.

How deep do we go here?   Do we want to talk recipes like our Mom’s used to do? My Mom got some of her best recipes by sitting around a table talking with her friends. They shared. They exchanged recipes. They talked about the latest tips and tricks. And then Mom made her own adaptation. So like my morning mashups, Mom would take a recipe, look in the fridge, and made something similar out of what she had.

Note: (Today’s mashup was spinach, cauliflower, mushrooms, and a tomato sauteed in olive oil with brewers yeast, garlic, salt, pepper and olive oil — then added ONE egg and scrambled it, put a little parmesan on top with some black sesame seeds. Tasty! )

Choosing healthy foods and getting exercise isn’t that tough. Stay out of the center aisle, buy fresh, eat clean, and get moving… those thoughts are pretty obvious.  So what is it that YOU want to keep you focused on doing what you already know you want to do?

What do you want from me, your healthy life coach?

How do you want it?  E-Book? Webinar? Video?  What’s the main delivery?  Or — do you want to talk live-time with me?

Do you want a guide for surviving the junk food aisles? Tips for giving up unwanted habits? A simple infographic card that keeps you on task?

Tell me what you want.  Really.  I want to know. If I can help you to do what I’ve done, I want to do it.

I want to create a platform to meet your needs.