Karma and the Morning Muse: Thinking about how your behavior affects your health

Karma and the Morning muse:
Karma comes around like the morning — it always comes. I write from a perspective of 10 years of being here, helping, managing, and somehow surviving against all odds. This is not about the political shitstorm. This is not about the ACA or it’s imminent repeal. This is about human nature. This is about karma. Good or Bad, the wise man said Instant Karma gonna get ya. I think he is right. 

How you treat people is up to you. In my opinion, it’s essential to our well-being. Why? Because when we treat other humans poorly, it affects us personally. When we treat others with vindictive resentment, it becomes a toxin in our system. The way we treat others has a way of coming back to us. Sometimes fast, sometimes slow, but it comes back.  It always comes back.

instant karma gonna get you

What you give, ultimately it comes back to get you.

Would you tell someone that has had a stroke to just ignore it and live normally?
Would you tell someone who lost a limb that they should grow a new one?
Do you tell a cancer patient that they just need to be more active and get out more?
Would you try to convince someone with dementia that they can and should do everything they did before, push harder, and work harder?
Would you tell your Mom, Your brother, Your neighbor that they aren’t really sick even though you can see they are suffering?
If a friends child has a difficult and chronic illness or something severe, do you offer compassion or tell them how they must parent?
 
Would you insist that a complicated disease isn’t real? Would you insist that your lay medical assumptions are more valid that the medical experts across the globe who don’t understand the illness? Do you demand that your person follows your lay advice? And if they don’t you just give up on them and bail?

Karma comes around. Be a jerk and you get treated like a jerk. Be kind, kindness comes back.
 

Would you ever say things to their only advocate that indicate you think they are enabling and should just stop? Would you tell them that the person afflicted doesn’t deserve your help?
What would you feel if you were the one receiving these kinds of judgment?
How would you respond? No, really. How would you deal with this? It’s the reason those who become ill tend to isolate. It’s the reason families are torn apart and caregivers start to avoid being with friends. It’s not about being needed 24 / 7 — often it’s a matter of being in solitude is more nurturing than being with judgmentals who can’t find their heart.
I am deeply grateful to our friends who have stayed with us through this nightmare. Erica, David, Jerry, Sean, and Kristi, in particular, have been amazing. They know! They get it.  Their friendship is such a gift. Such a treasure to not have to explain repeatedly and then feel like they just don’t get it.
 
I’ve lived with my beloved for many years and through many things. He was a tough guy who overcame many pain points. He was a hard worker and hard driving hiker. Now, it takes far to long to explain to others repeatedly what his illness is and why it is the way it is. It’s not dementia, but it’s like it. It’s not MS, but it’s like it. He does not need a nurse or a caregiver. He needs help and he needs a manager. And companionship from people other than his wife. 
 
I guess what I don’t understand is the calloused attitude so many have – knowing full well that if it happened to them, their choices would be as difficult as mine. I’ve literally had people tell me that if he didn’t get better, couldn’t get back to normal, that I should leave him. Yes, they have said exactly that and worse. 
 
I’m just saying: What is wrong with people? 
 I’ve heard too many calloused, insensitive comments over the past 10 years. Would people start treating others with more love and light if they ate right? If they stopped buying guns and eating meat from murdered animals, would they become softer hearted? Would they be more generous to the planet, the forests, the waterways if they ate more fresh foods that grow from the ground or swam in the sea?

 

 

People have unfriended me because I speak my mind articulately and eloquently. People have bragged about feeding the homeless or giving to their church while doing nothing to help those they are staring at. Maybe they need that separation. It’s like they get kudos for feeding strangers, but it scares them to help a friend or a relative. People who have plenty are expecting freebies while frowning on those who can’t afford whatever.
 
Yesterday I was called a very nasty, nasty woman, told I was a liberal twit, and later called a lesbian. Huh? I thought about it. I wrote back: Fuck Yeah, I am. I’m a NASTY WOMAN and I own it. LOL What these people seem to think is that compassion and consideration for others is a sin. I’ll never understand that. 
I’m not going to let this stranger bother me. It is truly all about taking care of myself, fighting when it’s right, standing up and standing my ground. With joy in my heart, I resist the haters.
I don’t care who you voted for. I don’t care that you have a different religion. I don’t care if you go to church and I don’t care if you don’t. If you are a human being, I expect you to act like you have a heart even if you lost it somewhere. 

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